How do I handle a breakup or loss?

Sometimes the pain of losing someone is so difficult we can’t manage it alone. Often times, clients will come to me because the pain is unbearable. This pain often creates emotional upheaval that makes one feel so much despair and helplessness. Your significant other leaving will usually a mirror or reflect to us our hidden part of our wounds and inner insecurities that was once inflicted upon us or has been dormant for some time.

So what does one do to get over a breakup? There are no simple answers to this. Many people do different things to get over someone. Some travel the world, some numb it with substances, some move on quickly to another partner, or some simply feel depressed and give up altogether on finding love and isolate from others. However, one small step towards healing is processing the emotions on what happened is very helpful. This means really sitting down, reflecting and re-visiting the pain with someone can be transformative. Truly understanding what happened and feeling through the emotions are some essentials to moving forward.

Breakups can often be a catalyst to something latent in one’s psyche and inner self that needs to be resolved which was brought into the light by another. Our pains and struggles are sometimes are our teachers for something that we need to understand and learn from in order to heal and grow.